What’s in a Scholarship?

This is the story about a child who grew up on the remote coast of mainland British Columbia living in a house pulled up on to a float of logs and surrounded by water. The few people living in the area, or passing through, were hand loggers, beach combers, and fishermen. Early schooling was taught by her mother because there was no school, or even other children to attend one. The mail and groceries came by boat every two weeks.

When she was nine years old her family moved and she was able to go to a one-room school, where one teacher taught twenty-eight pupils. It was typical then in many rural areas of Canada. But there wasn’t a high school in the logging camp so she was sent, at age thirteen, to board with a family she didn’t know, and only occasionally visited her parents on weekends.

Four years later, near the end of her grade twelve year, a favourite English teacher approached her saying “You need to write the government finals anyway, so maybe you’ll think about filling out these application forms for a scholarship.” In 1955 the 400-student school was not yet accredited, and finals in all senior courses were mandatory.

When the school principal called her to his office, he told her basically the same thing. She learned the scholarship was a gift Crown Zellerbach, then primary employer of the town. It provided $500 for each year for four years, to a student studying at university to become a teacher. Did she want to be a teacher? She hadn’t ever thought of it.

Her mind whirled as she signed the forms, wrote the exams and then secured a good job selling ladies clothing. She had a steady boyfriend, as most of her girlfriends had. Her family assumed they would marry soon, and she would become a homemaker and mother as both her mother and grandmothers had been.

It may come as no surprise to those who know me that it was my picture in the local newspaper when scholarship winners were announced. Then everything was turned upside down. There I was, a logging camp mill-town girl, going off to find her way in a big city. I hastily made the arrangements: secured space in the dormitory and registered at the University of British Columbia.

Culture shock set in when I arrived: sorority girls wearing cashmere and pearls (my best sweaters were Kitten brand in Orlon except for one Dalkeith in wool), dances were called “mixers,” afternoon science labs in cold, drafty, army huts, Saturday morning lectures, bus schedules needing transfers, heavy cafeteria food, line-ups for absolutely everything, but oh, it was all so new, and such fun.

I went home for that first Thanksgiving weekend and broke off with my boyfriend. From that time onward I didn’t really fit in at home. I had discovered a whole new world that I had not been aware of, and had decided to be a part of it.

I learned new ways of looking at life, obtained a university degree from UBC, met lifelong friends, including my best friend who became my husband, and developed a satisfying, varied, career that included motherhood also. It has been a very good life – one beyond my wildest expectations. Winning the scholarship did all that – it was indeed life changing.

If you remember nothing else about stories of award winners, even small amounts that provide approval and encouragement to a student, please never underestimate the change that can result in the lives of these students to whom our CFUW clubs give money. If they are ready to make the change it has potential for a whole different, improved life.

Thankfulness for My Home

Photo of beautiful waterfront propertyA television ad last evening showed a glorious sunset. It reminded me of the beautiful sunsets I regularly witness from this location. It challenged me to explain the reasons why I am so thankful for this life I enjoy here.

My story begins with finding this beautiful seaside location. It is 1.9 acres of waterfront with views of Patricia Bay, Mill Bay and farther out to Satellite Channel. After a full year of seeking properties with one Realtor in the Victoria area, and with another Realtor in Richmond, seeking a place for us to live where my husband could fly directly to his employment on North Vancouver Island. We fell in love with this acreage, on one September evening, during our first sunset viewing. Yes, I am indeed fortunate to live where I do.

I live alone here now, in the home we built together, but I am not lonely. Because of the 45 years of love and partnership we spent together, nearly 30 years of them here, evidence of Dale is all around me. There are memories in pictures to enjoy, a home built to suit our specifications, by a well certified builder and with a garden we created together in cooperation.

The shrubs and hedges are mature, their nests produce baby birds. I can watch a bald eagle perched on a waterfront tree, as he looks for his dinner. Occasionally I see a peregrine falcon, often hear the call of a sassy blue jay or raven and always there are crows and sea gulls who seem to enjoy my new roof.

The ocean before me is filled with activity every day. Occasionally porpoises frolic through the bay, always there are seals and river otter to watch. On calm days there are paddle boarders, some with a dog or babe in life jacket, along for the ride. Frequently I watch kayakers who appear to appreciate the water as I do. On warm summer days I can, and do, swim on the incoming tide.

I have so much more to be thankful for. It includes three adult children, each established in their own satisfying career. In these difficult times of staying at home, they are living on sizable pieces of land that they each own. There is plenty of worthwhile work to be done without having to leave the property.

I am most grateful for having three delightfully different grandchildren, whose parents have taught and encouraged them in fields of endeavour, and interests they seek. School is at home just now, and that means in addition to the usual farm chores at 7:30 AM, each one takes some responsibility for part of the household jobs in order to be ready by 9:00 for a school to start in their rooms. With a short recess break with a snack and some physical activity, lesson time is usually finished by noon.

I have every reason to be grateful, with only one exception. At this time in our ‘unhinged’ world — that’s how it sometimes feels — I cannot travel to be able to hug these young ones. But I do now have their email address and have begun to use it.

Note: This piece was written during the pandemic lock-down.